What is kink Theology?

A good place to start this blog would be a brief explanation of what I mean by Kink Theology and why I think it is an important thing to do.

To do this I’ll briefly explain in turn what I mean by theology and kink and then what I intend to do by bringing the two together.

This is only an extremely brief introduction. I could go into huge depth on both subjects but have chosen to keep it as brief as possible and so only explain how I am defining each of the titles to mean.

In future I will take more time so that I can go into more depth on both of these massive subjects.


What do I mean by Theology?

For the purposes of this blog I will be using theology as a blanket term to cover actual theology (i.e. the study of God), the exegesis of Scripture, spirituality, discipleship and aspects of ministry (for example pastoral care, leading worship ect). It will predominantly be Christian theology as that is what I am studying, though I am open to posting pieces written from non-Christian perspectives if people wish to submit them.

I will be taking influence from the progressive, more liberal, schools of theology as well as the more radical schools of liberation, feminist and queer.

I will aim to use the examples and knowledge found in the deep waters of Christian History and Tradition and try my hardest to listen to voices from all traditions and eras not just my own limited preferences. So for example whilst I may be coming from a liberal theological background I would like to see what a more conservative or evangelical theology can teach us about God or scripture.

What do I mean by Kink?

By kink I am referring to activities, experiences or theories that fall under the BDSM acronym and anything considered outside the mainstream understandings of sex. This includes Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Slave/Master, Sadomasochism, paraphilia and fetishism. However I would also like to stress that not all BDSM or kink activity is sexual. Many people, myself included, like the non-sexual aspects of BDSM as much as the sexual. For example being in service to a dominant can involve performing zero sex acts at all. Does a lack of sexual activity mean the relationship is still kinky? Those participating would argue it was. So I will also be including the non-sexual aspects of BDSM and Kink as much as those that are thought to be sexual.

So I am intending to deal with ideas, activities, and the building of relationship found outside the heteronormative narratives of conventional society.

I want to ask the kinds of questions like:

What can someone who enjoys being strangled during sex teach us about the physical intimacy certain people desire with God?


How can the relationship between a submissive and their Dominant speak into the relationship of the Trinity?


Do the strict rules and etiquette found within the BDSM scene have anything in common with Covenantal Israel, Paul’s early Christian communities or even Twenty First Century fundamentalist evangelical congregations?

I will also try as much as I can to respect and follow the rules and etiquette found within the fetish community as theirs is a culture to be respected just like any other.

As someone who is also exploring their gender identity I will also be looking at alternative views on gender though this will principally be through the lens of BDSM and how gender is constructed and used in the kink lifestyle.

Why a kink theology?

I think that the kink lifestyle has a lot to offer theology.  Those involved in the BDSM scene have constructed their own narratives of sexuality and life and I believe, like other narratives, they have legitimate lessons to teach us when it comes to God, humanity and the Gospel.

The BDSM scene is a product of the sexual revolution and has already made great strides in things like gender equality, the articulation and understanding of desire (both sexual and non-sexual) and the questioning of the settled order of society. Things that Christianity is called, but often fails, to do.

There is also a strand in Queer theology where shock is used as a tactic to make theological points. God becoming incarnate was the greatest shock of all time, so why not continue to use it in theology. Shock only goes so far though, and so it may be time to move beyond shock to legitimate theological discussion, hence this blog. This is summed up beautifully by Jeremy Carette who says;

“using S&M to shock the theological world has value in attempting to respond to the pains of exclusion and the denial of embodied pleasure in the Christian community…. However as discourses of S&M become more prevalent in the theological world, it is time to move beyond the shock tactics to the careful analysis of the social order.”[1]

So what I hope to do with this blog is explore what we can learn about God and what it means to be kinky disciples of Christ using the lessons that people in the BDSM scene can teach us. I would also like to do a kinky reading of Scripture and see what new interpretations we can find. If we understand that some people are kinky why shouldn’t we help them discover their voices within the Bible?

I also intend to use this blog as a resource for gathering techniques to be used in ministry, particularly pastoral care. Many people have been exposed to the kink lifestyle through modern media phenomenon and the Christian faith needs a way of responding to this positively if we genuinely wish to help people live out their God given lives to the full. Practitioners of BDSM have always held a firm line on consent and often have a stronger understanding and practice of it then many vanilla couples. What can the mantra of Safe, Sane, Consensual teach those of us who minister in a society where rape culture is so prevalent?

Finally this blog is intended to help Christians who are kinky themselves find a way of articulating their faith in a way they can understand as well as helping to strengthen their relationship with God. This could be through understanding God as the ultimate dom/me, finding a new way of prayer through sadomasochistic rituals or just hearing that they are not alone in their kinky desires.

I hope that this site will be useful and enjoyed by Christians and non-Christians, Dominants and submissives, kinksters and vanillas alike, because after all; we are one in Jesus Christ.

[1] Carette, Jeremy, “Intense Exchange: Sadomasochism, Theology and the Politics of Late Capitalism” in Theology and Sexuality 11.2 (2005), 13

About Natalie Waste

Bisexual, Lifestyle-Submissive CD. Theology student blogging about Kink, Christianity and Theology. kinktheology.wordpress.com
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1 Response to What is kink Theology?

  1. 2beundone says:

    Hmmm….VERY interesting post.


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