Category Archives: relationship

Christian Perversions

Recently I’ve been spending time chatting with a number of Christian Kinksters and exploring their ideas of BDSM and kink households. Whilst I do not want to fall into the trap of kink shaming, I must admit what I discovered … Continue reading

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Church Dogminatrix – Locking Away Desire

Chastity has a long tradition in the Christian church. Long before the toxic purity culture turned it into a poisoning and damaging mindset the men and woman of the monastic tradition where practising self imposed chastity to sharpen their minds … Continue reading

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Stained with Blood

A dear friend of mine has recently exhibited a piece of artwork in an exhibition for artists in recovery held in a cathedral. The piece explores the overlap between donating blood and the eucharistic act of sharing Body and Blood … Continue reading

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Fear the Lord your Dom/me

  Deuteronomy 10.20: You shall fear the Lord your God; him alone you shall worship; to him you shall hold fast, and by his name you shall swear.  

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Fr. Dominant/br. submissive – Monastic Kink

I spent some time living alongside a community of monks recently and as I’m attempting to write a kink based theology I did some reflecting and tried to view it through the BDSM lens….. with varying results

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Slaves and Masters – A Kinky Person Reads Ephesians.

This post was originally written for a friend who created an online queer commentary for the letter to the Ephesians. I was given the passage about slaves and masters (for obvious reasons) which can be found here:  Ephesians 6.5-9 – … Continue reading

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What kind of relationship do we want with Jesus? – John 13.21-32

This reflection was written for Holy Wednesday 2016. Based on Judas’ betrayal – John 13.21-32

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Making my self a switch to all…

So I recently had my first experience properly dominating someone. I’d met this girl at my university’s fetish society and we hit it off and talked about potentially playing together. We were both subs so I said we could try … Continue reading

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Church Dogminatrix – A Place of Strength

As well as using this blog to explore what the BDSM community has to offer Christian theology I thought I would look at what people of faith have to offer the people of kink. Hopefully there will be techniques, knowledge … Continue reading

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