Category Archives: relationship

A Rite for a Collaring Ceremony

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Anxiety and Submissive me.

So I’ve recently started seeing a therapist for my anxiety. It’s been a big step for me because I was one of those (stupid) people who always thought going to therapy was weak, and that I wasn’t really that bad … Continue reading

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A light to lighten the Grey

This is a sermon I preached at an LGBTI+ service. It’s also the first time I’ve been open about my sexuality in my professional capacity, so it’s a coming out sermon of sorts. The passage is Luke 2.22-35 A light … Continue reading

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Christian Perversions

Recently I’ve been spending time chatting with a number of Christian Kinksters and exploring their ideas of BDSM and kink households. Whilst I do not want to fall into the trap of kink shaming, I must admit what I discovered … Continue reading

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Church Dogminatrix – Locking Away Desire

Chastity has a long tradition in the Christian church. Long before the toxic purity culture turned it into a poisoning and damaging mindset the men and woman of the monastic tradition where practising self imposed chastity to sharpen their minds … Continue reading

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Stained with Blood

A dear friend of mine has recently exhibited a piece of artwork in an exhibition for artists in recovery held in a cathedral. The piece explores the overlap between donating blood and the eucharistic act of sharing Body and Blood … Continue reading

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Fear the Lord your Dom/me

  Deuteronomy 10.20: You shall fear the Lord your God; him alone you shall worship; to him you shall hold fast, and by his name you shall swear.  

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Fr. Dominant/br. submissive – Monastic Kink

I spent some time living alongside a community of monks recently and as I’m attempting to write a kink based theology I did some reflecting and tried to view it through the BDSM lens….. with varying results

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Slaves and Masters – A Kinky Person Reads Ephesians.

This post was originally written for a friend who created an online queer commentary for the letter to the Ephesians. I was given the passage about slaves and masters (for obvious reasons) which can be found here:  Ephesians 6.5-9 – … Continue reading

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What kind of relationship do we want with Jesus? – John 13.21-32

This reflection was written for Holy Wednesday 2016. Based on Judas’ betrayal – John 13.21-32

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