Category Archives: relationship

I’m sorry Daddy I’ve been naughty….

Posted on 18/12/2020 by Natalie Waste

Confession seems to be one of those church things that still holds the fascination and imagination of nonchurch going people. The mystery, the secretiveness of it, the little box to enter and the hidden voice of a man with power … Continue reading →

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A Rite for a Collaring Ceremony

Posted on 15/06/2020 by Natalie Waste

The collaring ceremony is a highly prized event for any D/s couple and is something that many people plan for a long time, especially when the collar has been earnt after a long process. This is my version of a … Continue reading →

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Anxiety and Submissive me.

Posted on 24/03/2019 by Natalie Waste

So I’ve recently started seeing a therapist for my anxiety. It’s been a big step for me because I was one of those (stupid) people who always thought going to therapy was weak, and that I wasn’t really that bad … Continue reading →

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A light to lighten the Grey

Posted on 02/02/2019 by Natalie Waste

This is a sermon I preached at an LGBTI+ service. It’s also the first time I’ve been open about my sexuality in my professional capacity, so it’s a coming out sermon of sorts. The passage is Luke 2.22-35 A light … Continue reading →

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Christian Perversions

Posted on 18/10/2018 by Natalie Waste

Recently I’ve been spending time chatting with a number of Christian Kinksters and exploring their ideas of BDSM and kink households. Whilst I do not want to fall into the trap of kink shaming, I must admit what I discovered … Continue reading →

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Church Dogminatrix – Locking Away Desire

Posted on 05/10/2018 by Natalie Waste

Chastity has a long tradition in the Christian church. Long before the toxic purity culture turned it into a poisoning and damaging mindset the men and woman of the monastic tradition where practising self imposed chastity to sharpen their minds … Continue reading →

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Stained with Blood

Posted on 18/09/2018 by Natalie Waste

A dear friend of mine has recently exhibited a piece of artwork in an exhibition for artists in recovery held in a cathedral. The piece explores the overlap between donating blood and the eucharistic act of sharing Body and Blood … Continue reading →

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Fear the Lord your Dom/me

Posted on 29/10/2016 by Natalie Waste

  Deuteronomy 10.20: You shall fear the Lord your God; him alone you shall worship; to him you shall hold fast, and by his name you shall swear.  

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Fr. Dominant/br. submissive – Monastic Kink

Posted on 01/08/2016 by Natalie Waste

I spent some time living alongside a community of monks recently and as I’m attempting to write a kink based theology I did some reflecting and tried to view it through the BDSM lens….. with varying results

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Slaves and Masters – A Kinky Person Reads Ephesians.

Posted on 05/07/2016 by Natalie Waste

This post was originally written for a friend who created an online queer commentary for the letter to the Ephesians. I was given the passage about slaves and masters (for obvious reasons) which can be found here:  Ephesians 6.5-9 – … Continue reading →

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