Category Archives: Submission

I’m sorry Daddy I’ve been naughty….

Posted on 18/12/2020 by Natalie Waste

Confession seems to be one of those church things that still holds the fascination and imagination of nonchurch going people. The mystery, the secretiveness of it, the little box to enter and the hidden voice of a man with power … Continue reading →

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A Rite for a Collaring Ceremony

Posted on 15/06/2020 by Natalie Waste

The collaring ceremony is a highly prized event for any D/s couple and is something that many people plan for a long time, especially when the collar has been earnt after a long process. This is my version of a … Continue reading →

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Church Dogminatrix – Locking Away Desire

Posted on 05/10/2018 by Natalie Waste

Chastity has a long tradition in the Christian church. Long before the toxic purity culture turned it into a poisoning and damaging mindset the men and woman of the monastic tradition where practising self imposed chastity to sharpen their minds … Continue reading →

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BDSM and the Eucharist

Posted on 19/01/2018 by Natalie Waste

“Take, eat, this is my body broken for you” When it comes to intimacy with God, no other act of worship or devotion brings us closer or deeper into contact with the Divine than the Eucharist. In the Eucharist, or … Continue reading →

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Waiting…..

Posted on 19/03/2017 by Natalie Waste

So a few weeks ago I spent some time in a silent monastery, and what does one do in a silent monastery? One spends time in silent prayer.   The trouble with silent prayer though is whilst you are busy … Continue reading →

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Fear the Lord your Dom/me

Posted on 29/10/2016 by Natalie Waste

  Deuteronomy 10.20: You shall fear the Lord your God; him alone you shall worship; to him you shall hold fast, and by his name you shall swear.  

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Fr. Dominant/br. submissive – Monastic Kink

Posted on 01/08/2016 by Natalie Waste

I spent some time living alongside a community of monks recently and as I’m attempting to write a kink based theology I did some reflecting and tried to view it through the BDSM lens….. with varying results

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Slaves and Masters – A Kinky Person Reads Ephesians.

Posted on 05/07/2016 by Natalie Waste

This post was originally written for a friend who created an online queer commentary for the letter to the Ephesians. I was given the passage about slaves and masters (for obvious reasons) which can be found here:  Ephesians 6.5-9 – … Continue reading →

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In Service Topping to the Lord

Posted on 13/02/2016 by Natalie Waste

The Christian minister holds a unique position in the world today. As leaders of communities they are given charge over people and head up teams of both employees and volunteers. They are often responsible for a big expensive building (sometimes … Continue reading →

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The Submissive Virgin Mary

Posted on 13/10/2015 by Natalie Waste

Can Mary’s submissive “yes” be saved and transformed by the BDSM understanding of what it means to be a bottom and truly submit? Continue reading →

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